When I started classes this fall and my husband took the semester off because there were no classes he needed we decided he would just stay home taking care of the girls and doing housework so I could focus on my classes. We agreed that he would keep the toys picked up, the laundry done, and dishes would be washed. This hasn't been happening. To be fair he is recovering from gastric bypass surgery so he does need to take it easy. But it isn't fair to me that I am doing classwork, housework, and staying home all but two mornings a week to care for the kids when he gets to play on the internet all day and go to a friend's house to play with their model train set a few nights a week. Its like he gets the advantages and I get the work.
He does take care of the kids and keep them out of my hair when I am focusing on doing an online test, but most of the time when I'm trying to study they can walk in and play, and he does nothing about it. This is a our jobs right now and I feel I am doing most of the work. He agrees that he needs to do more, but the action only lasts a day before a return to the status quo.
He knows that I can't do it alone and he needs to help, but when it comes to actually doing it he doesn't have the motivation to get up and do anything.
Today I went to the kitchen to make supper for me and the girls, I saw the sink full of dishes. I thought about leaving them and asking him to load the dishwasher when he got home, or texting him to ask him to do it. I then realized that if I attempted either it would result in no action. No matter how many times I ask he won't change. I loaded the dishwasher myself and scrubbed down the sinks. I'm fairly certain he won't even notice when he gets home.
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